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Just a mother of teenagers trying to do her best with what they throw at her…

SexEd from Early Years

An article by guest writer Joanna Cake 
 It was all over the media on Friday. Plans to introduce sexual and relationship education into the school curriculum from the age of four.
Listening to Newsbeat on Radio One that lunchtime, we heard from very young pupils who attend a rather progressive primary school in Norfolk where children are taught […]

Being a good Parent

An article by guest writer Joanna Cake 
“Sometimes being a good parent is knowing when not to parent.  You have to step out of the way and let life happen to your kids.”  ‘Norah Walker’ from the first series of  ’Brothers and Sisters’
Oh, how this struck a chord with me.  We are so busy trying to protect them […]

Internet Substitution

 An article by guest writer Joanna Cake
 When the kids were smaller, one of the things I hated most was trying to hack round the supermarket with the pair of them in tow. Far too stressful. As fast as I got one dressed to go out, the other would be removing clothing. Neither wanted to get […]

Voyage around a Mother

An article by guest writer Joanna Cake
In so many families, there seems to be a vicious circle as each girl child swears to herself and to her mother: ‘I will never be like you…’ and despairingly watches and hears herself becoming that person, despite her best efforts to the contrary.
I grew up watching my father, […]

‘You Want to do What?’

An article by guest writer Joanna Cake
I have been reading a manual called ‘You Want to do What?’ by Karen Sullivan. 
The front cover claims that this book will give you ‘Instant answers to your parenting dilemmas’.
It was very interesting…
I didn’t read it in any particular order, just dipping into the various subject headings as they took my […]

Media Meddlers

An article by guest author Joanna Cake 
Nearly thirteen years ago, when A moved from her carry cot into a proper cot, we bought her a special organic coconut mattress to sleep on, rather than one of the plasticky common or garden variety.  When T was born, A moved into a lovely new single bed, her old cot mattress […]

Madeleine

 An article by guest writer Joanna Cake 
 Following last night’s Panorama about the disappearance of Madeleine McCann, I was reminded of an article written by Janice Turner of The Times back in September when Kate McCann first came into the spotlight as a suspect in the case.
http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/comment/columnists/janice_turner/article2456672.ece
I read this article with a growing sense of agreement but also […]

Internet Responsibility

An article by guest writer Joanna Cake 
Following on from Rosie Shelley’s post, I was thinking about the role of the Internet in certain sections of today’s society.
When I was a child, our infants school backed onto some woods and there were tales of a nudist camp and of a man who used to lurk and […]

MumRage

A friend and I were discussing MumRage recently and I think it’s one of those things that people don’t speak about because it’s considered an unnatural instinct.
MumRage is born of frustration, exhaustion and the whole feeling of being trapped. Never having any grown up conversation about world events; always feeling as if you’re drowning in the minutiae […]

Out: Discussing Sexuality

written by guest author Joanna Cake
Getting on for ten years ago, the kids were eating breakfast in the dining room, prior to school, and I was emptying the dishwasher in the kitchen when I caught the tail end of a piece on the radio. Could I possibly have heard it correctly? Were they really announcing […]